Weddings
9 good tips when planning a wedding
1. Keep your planning structured
Note everything, create lots of lists. The first thing you need to do is deciding where to store or save all your notes and lists. Create a folder on your PC or get a physical folder for brochures and hand written notes. Bookmark all good websites so that you can find them again easily.
2. Involve friends and family in the planning
They will be happy to be asked! Split into teams base don areas of interest. Arrange planning nights with the key people involved where you have a clear agenda for each session.
3. Compromise
Your familiy will probably have strong opinions on what THEIR ideal wedding is. Hopefully it will be easy for you all to agree, but conflicts can easily occur. Be prepared to compromise to avoid these conflicts.
Think about what is most important to you and give in or compromise on the less important points. You can also use the less important points to bargain about the issues that are really important to you.
Remember that the more your parents pay – the more the will expect to be able to decide (obviously).
4. Be extra patient
Planning a wedding is stressing, and if you combine it with wedding nerves or cold feet, the result can be a lot of arguing and unpleasantness. Show some extra understanding for each other and take a deep breath instead of snapping at each other.
5. Don’t assume anything
Double and triple check that everything is the way you want it to be. Ask about details and think about how you will handle an emergency. Make sure you have written agreements for everything: DJ’s, musicians, waiting staff, drink prices etc.
6. Think through the wedding from beginning to end
Be certain that all the details have been thought of. If you aren’t having a rehersal dinner, it is a good idea for the closest friends and family to meet at the venue to go over the details anyway.
Think through the wedding from beginning to end. Picture the ceremony and the reception afterwards. How will the events occur? Where sill the guests be? Where will the toeasmaster be? Will all the guests hear him? What will happen after the dinner? etc. This way you will notice if something lacks planning.
7. Celebrate differences
Weddings are always a union of two different families. If you have different backgrounds it can also be the union of different cultures and traditions. Try to celebrate both sides different cultures together. You can bend the rules to suit yourselves.
8. Make sure the best man and maid of honour have check lists
The best man needs to make sure that himself or the groom don’t forget anything on the big day (like the rings, an overnight bag, cigars, speech notes, hotel reservations etc). The maid of honour must do the same for the bride.
9. Have fun!
Try not to stress about the little things. This will be the day you will remember for the rest of your life!
